What is Blameless Living?
When we focus on the problem, there is normally some type of blame. Blame towards ourselves or another person… or it could even be at God or the dark side. In trying to understand what occurred, we attempt to explain why we feel a certain way by making up a story in our heads to make sense of the situation. But if you say, “I am where I am.” and then ask what it is that you want to feel to be safe, loved, and supported, you learn to make it about your vibrational state and your connection with God/Source rather than reacting to life.
When you manage your emotional state you begin to respect and honor yourself, and the outside world reflects that back to you. So the moment you begin to respect yourself, others respect you. When you love yourself, others will love you. Even if others are already respecting and loving you, if you don't give that to yourself first, you can't receive it from others.
Becoming blameless is remembering that you're not in control of life. You're only in control of your vibrational state, and how you perceive life.
The moment that you blame, you become caught up in a storyline that you don't have any control over, and it moves you out of alignment with your Inner Being. When you're in alignment with your Inner Being, you're aligned with the power and greatness within you, and a love that's unconditional. It allows you to operate in a sound mind and have the discipline to stay present to the truth. So you're utilizing your mind in alignment with your heart.
When we're not present, we're unconscious. We're using our mind without our heart and our mind can only do so much and it's always on, trying to figure everything out. So when we guide our mind with our heart, meaning we care about how we feel, we remove blame. We find acceptance with ourselves, and a patience with the unfolding of life. That's what I call a state of grace. When we access this state of grace, there is an acceptance and kindness with self and others knowing everybody is at different places on their journey. Everyone's doing the best they can with what they know and their ability to love and accept themselves.
Removing the guilt that we carry is liberating.
When we continue just to focus on ourselves and our own personal alignment, we let everyone else off the hook for how we feel. We actually step into a more empowered state, that there's not a need to blame, because you have the strength to move forward in whatever it is that life has brought you. You have a knowingness that you have the strength to get through it. If you know you're okay, there's no need to blame. When you know that life is for you, and that the kingdom of heaven is within, you begin to know that you have everything that you need to get through whatever life has presented to you.
We come into these physical bodies for the adventure of it. We come to learn more aspects about ourselves. In order for us to understand more about ourselves, we need contrast. Everything has two subjects: What you want and the lack of what you want. If you didn't have the lack of what you wanted, you would never know what you did want. So those polarities and contrasts are an important piece of life.
Contrasts occur because we're evolving and we want to experience more out of life. We have those contrasts so we can learn more about ourselves and the courage that we have within. When we do, we realize other people's perspectives that we didn't have access to before. There becomes more compassion, more grace, and more acceptance with self and others.
When we become less attached to how people show up and how people treat us, we become more attuned to our own Inner Guidance, and know we always have a choice in every situation. Whether we speak up or step away, we still stay true to ourselves. In other words we don't give our energy away. We don't ever make it about someone else doing something to us, because we know how to stay focused with our truth, so others are not to blame. There's no rescuing, there's just shining a light, so that others can see themselves with the truth of who they really are. THIS is how we change the world.
